Embrace the Fat and Sassy Lifestyle
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Fat and sassy.
Those were the words my grandmother would use any time I asked her how she was. At barely five-foot-tall and probably eighty pounds soaking wet, it took me until I was an adult to understand what she meant by that.
She was a teacher of living life to the fullest, holding dear the ones we love, and embracing curiosity in everything. These are some of the things my grandmother taught me in order to live a fat and sassy life.
Follow your passions.
Notice passions has an s on it —meaning it’s plural.
My grandmother encouraged all her granddaughters to try as many things as we found interesting. Most of us ran the gamut with her encouragement — musical instruments, play-acting, drawing and painting, cooking and baking, multiple sports, science, writing, even costume creation.
And of course, if we found something we enjoyed and wanted to pursue, we were expected to do our best at it. There was an emphasis on taking pride in what we could achieve.
Grandma was a great example of this attitude. She had many creative talents that she shared with all of us. And she always emphasized the importance of details and doing a good job in whatever she was working on.
She was an excellent seamstress often creating custom dolls with fashionable clothing representative of our own clothes as kids. She included designer pockets on our dolls’ jeans, lace trim on their colorful blouses, and pearl buttons on their little purses.
Grandma was also a fantastic cook. After I moved hundreds of miles away as a young adult, she was the person I’d call when I had a question about anything that pertained to the kitchen. I still use many of her recipes today.
Not only did Grandma encourage us to try new things, but she also took her own advice. She was the example her granddaughters tried to emulate.
You’ll find many new things to enjoy if you embrace curiosity. And once you find something that interests you, follow it until you’re satisfied. This might mean you lose interest, you didn’t enjoy it, or you love it and will continue having it as part of your life.
When I was growing up, to live authentically meant to be honest about your thoughts, feelings, and opinions with others as well as yourself. I think today it encompasses that but also includes gender identity, sexuality, and personal beliefs.
There are broken-hearted people who live their lives without ever sharing their true self with the world because there is a real threat to their well-being. How sad it must be to live as the person you believe others want you to be rather than yourself. How frustrating, overwhelming, and daunting it must feel to know you’re not safe to live as your most authentic self.
No one deserves to live in fear of being themself.
If you’re struggling to live as your most authentic self out of fear of being mistreated, victimized, marginalized, bullied, or discriminated against, please know that there are people in this world who will accept you as you are, that someday you will find your chosen family who you will be able to be yourself with.
The flip side of this involves everyone accepting those who may be different from themselves. Accepting those who don’t look the same, act the same, pray the same, speak the same, or love the same as you. Please, allow everyone to live authentically as you want to.
If you’re not living authentically because of your own fears and hesitation — not because it is unsafe for you to live authentically — now is the time to charge forward, embrace your individual identity, and share the real you with the rest of us.
The world needs the uniqueness of you as well as the uniqueness of each and every one of us. Live as your most authentic self and allow others to do the same.
You’ve heard it a million times already, but it’s worth repeating.
Life is short.
Too short, in fact, to go about miserable, unhappy, sad, or filled with melancholy. The average human lifespan is only seventy-two years.
If you’re under thirty-five and reading this, that might seem like a lot of years. But the older you get, the faster time will fly by. Don’t miss out on any of the happiness, fun, adventure, or love around you. Take note of it all, and live with the purpose to experience what you enjoy as much as you can.
Life is much more fun when in pursuit of your dreams and personal goals.
Grandma’s can-do attitude meant she never feared new projects even if she had no prior experience with them. She designed every detail of her last home’s construction because that was her dream not because she was an architect and knew how. She simply set her mind to figure it out so she could do it.
She didn’t go through life aimlessly. She dove in headfirst into the things she found fascinating. She explored what interested her. She did things because she wanted to do them — she wanted to achieve or accomplish something, she wanted to help someone or show them they were loved.
The actions Grandma took and the decisions she made were done with purpose and for a reason.
Find what it is you want to accomplish or achieve and make up your mind to do it.
Always be kind.
No one gets out unscathed in life — or alive. This is why kindness, compassion, and generosity are all attributes worth embracing. Not only do they improve the lives of everyone around you, but they also improve your own life as well. They foster inner feelings of joy, self-acceptance, and pride.
Being kind has notable effects on your mood, self-esteem, blood pressure, and connectivity with others. In other words, doing good makes you feel good. And being kind fosters kindness in others — it’s literally contagious. Generosity is another positive contagion that people can catch from one another.
Grandma was a woman generous with her time, money, and love. She donated to local food pantries and other charities. She always had time to talk and visit with her family. She hosted parties so everyone could see each other and spend time together.
And because of her generous and kind attitude, she was loved and cared for. And since her death, she is missed every single day by many family and friends.
Kindness matters — in person, online, and over the phone.
Laugh as often as possible.
Humor is a state of mind, a mood, a temperament. And it causes you to laugh or feel amused, joyful, and even relaxed. The physical and mental benefits of laughing have been studied and documented numerous times.
So trust the scientists who say laughing — another contagious act — is good for you. They know what they’re talking about.
So laugh the next time one of your kids boobytraps your kitchen sink to spray you the moment you turn it on instead of getting angry. It took some ingenuity on their part to create such a prank.
Watch a comedy next time you’re looking for a movie for date night. Sharing laughs with your partner is healthy for both of you — physically, mentally, and emotionally.
Leave behind the drama queens and chaos-creators and start hanging out with some chill, funny people.
Laugh as much as possible.
Living fat and sassy means choosing the best possible version of yourself.
You only get one chance at living the life of your dreams. If you embrace the fat and sassy lifestyle, you’ll start growing into the amazing human being you’re supposed to be. And you’ll begin attracting the life you desire most.